This is Pastor Tim’s article which appeared in the Evening Leader on Tuesday, Nov 18, 2025
A little over a week ago, I got to do something very cool. Agape needed some help moving some food in their warehouse to prepare for some upgrading that is going to take place. I put the word out to the men of Wayne Street and we had a group of about a half a dozen men show up to help move boxes. It literally picked up more cans of corn that evening than I had in the rest of my life combined. In case you are wondering, creamed corn is heavier than regular corn. Now you know!
I have to tell you, the guys we had together down there had an absolute blast. We laughed and made fun of each other the whole time. About half way through the project, I was reminded of something I had forgotten: it is a blast to hang out with other men.
Once I came to that realization, I tried to think about the last time I did something that was all men. I could not think of the last time I had done something that was all men. That is a shame.
I know it is not popular to say in our world today, but men need men. It is interesting to me how much a woman in a group changes the dynamic of the group. I am not disparaging women at all. I am quite fond of my wife and I treasure every moment I get to spend with her. But she does not see the world in any way like I do, and I am thankful for what she sees that I don’t. We have an agreement in our marriage. I never do anything that has instructions with more than 3 steps without adult supervision and she never backs the car into the garage. It is an arrangement that works for us.
That is because she and I are wonderfully different and I rejoice in the fact that I do not understand her. But sometimes, I need to punch someone on the arm, to carry a large object through a doorway, or say something insulting to someone. I have found women are not so good at these kinds of activities. But a group of men are great for this.
If you are a man, or if you know a man that you care about, I want you to encourage him to go be in the company of men from time to time. Are there activities that a group of men can get into that is not good for them? Absolutely, and obviously that kind of stuff is not what I am talking about. My eyes opened to the importance of being in a group of men while carrying cans of corn at Agape. Men, we don’t need to be immoral or obscene to have a good time. I can tell you if you are in a group that thinks that is the only way to bond as men, you are not in a group of men. Those are boys and they are very different.
Boys learn how to be men by witnessing other men, which is another great reason why it is important for men to spend time together. Of all men on earth, there is really only one who can tell me to knock it off and I actually will, and I call him Dad. That is because he taught me well and on the days I get it the most right are the days I am the most like him.
Interestingly enough, I happen to be writing this article on Veteran’s day, a day we celebrate a number of women, but a whole lot of men down through the years who have served their country proudly. What is much more interesting is that today is also my Dad’s 83rd birthday.
Regardless of what the screeching feminists online might tell you, there are good men out there and we really are good. Not perfect, but good. We raise families, provide food and shelter, we love moms and watch out for kids. We make mistakes, but we always have the best interest of those around us at heart. And not only are we good for society, but we are also good for each other. We neglect that need at our own peril.